Hi, guys! I am sure you must be wondering what’s so new about self-talk. It is very much like a self-fulfilling prophecy- something you think about so much you can actually make it happen. Positive self-talk gives you the permission to go ahead and accomplish your goals, whereas, negative self-talk makes you give up easily and not even try to succeed.
We can easily lose our confidence depending on the way we speak with ourselves. Confused?? For instance, you were unable to do some task which as per others was a cake walk. Now, this thought kills your motivation and you think you are “stupid” enough for not getting it. Or, maybe you couldn’t crack an interview and consider yourself “not worthy” of it. Most people do this self-talk without realizing that your mind is a silent listener to all that you say.
Your thoughts are directly linked to your behavior. If you think, ‘I know I can do it,’ you will be more willing to do it. But, if you manage to convince yourself that you won’t be able to do it, then there’s no scope left for the mind to change your decision. Don’t believe me? Try it now!! Think of any act you have been wanting to do, but haven’t done it so far because you kept stopping yourself by giving some reason or the other. Say this- ‘I can’t do it.’—-and now try telling yourself ‘I don’t have to do it perfectly. I can at least try.’
HOW IT EFFECTS YOUR PHYSICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH..!
Negative self-talk will leave you with almost no hope of trying as compared to positive self-talk. It can encourage you to behave in a not so helpful manner and damage yourself more emotionally. For instance, when you say ‘No one cares about the way I feel, maybe I am not worth it.’ This statement can be replaced by saying, ‘It’s okay if they are not able to understand my concern right now, maybe I can try and explain it once again or think of some alternative.’ Positive self-talk will surely boost your confidence!
THE WORDS USED BY YOU MAKE A BIG DIFFERENCE.
Positive affirmations are practiced by the self-development industry for ages, as a way of programming your mind to help you achieve things that you want. For example, you plan to go, fitter, this summer. You walk into the gym and see people sweating like crazy, lifting up weights that you can’t even imagine doing right now, people running on treadmills and you standing at the entrance wondering if you could ever reach that level. Now, seeing all this, you tell yourself, ‘I can’t do this. It’s just so difficult. I don’t even know the basics of it…!!’ However, why not talk to yourself in a different way? You could say, ‘Look at this challenge. This task, regardless of how difficult it is, gives me a chance to learn new skills.’ To change the way you perceive a problem is extremely important for you to change its results.
SOME EXAMPLES OF NEGATIVE TO POSITIVE FORMS OF SELF-TALK: